Saw all the really would like to share with you in this video are the seven deadly sins of goal setting.
Alright.
Because people are going to come to you and in the context of a coaching session make it really motivational.
People may leave really inspired but sometimes excitements and more vision and inspiration can end up
leading to are so little in nothing.
So in this video I would like to help you to be able to identify the potential pitfalls that your clients
will fall into so that you can better hold them to account which you're going to have to get good out
incidental if you want to be a life coach.
So the first send off ineffective goal setting is not writing goals and no look at what I've already
asked you to do.
Well they looked at one specific tape go so far.
We've looked at our greatest line of vision and have asked you to actually write it down.
I don't know whether you have written it down or whether you haven't if you haven't and you haven't.
Action Yes.
Then you think you're going to remember well you might do.
You may have a great great memory but the best thing about writing goals down is once they're on paper
or in every naughty or whenever it is you document them.
Guess what.
You don't have to worry about remembering them anymore.
And if they are really important you might want to hire a way to get creative and develop some sort
of vision boards like I have a vision board in my office.
Our home has up in the world reminds me of all my main goals.
All my main objectives alongside the main reason why I'm doing what it is that I'm doing because as
human beings sometimes it can be very easy to lose perspective and forget why we're doing what we're
doing which leads us to the second set of goal setting which is how much is actually having unclear
motivations.
No I'm explaining this to you.
Because this is something that I'm hoping I know you're going to be able to relatively confidently help
people to understand.
We say we assigned a whole section of the course to two motives and core values which means that you
might not fully understand all of this stuff right away.
This course you can come back to and refer back to whenever you want and there was the core values worksheet
that if you actually spend some time filled that in you're going to have a grounded understanding of
your own values and what is driving you know.
You're also going to be clear on your priorities.
How would you prioritize these values.
So it's important that you apply all the stuff yourself first and foremost.
You're never going to be able to really authentically hold anyone else to account for doing what it
is you're not willing to see leaders go first.
Life coaches.
Yeah.
Lead by example.
You got to be able to or have been willing to have done what it is you're asking other people to have
done.
The reason I'm not presenting you with wheels of life and all that kind of stuff is because I've found
more effective frameworks Ray Ray.
Back at the start of red or the life cautioned textbooks too.
Well that stuff's nice.
There's other stuff that's better.
So having clear motives about why you're doing what you're doing why you want to be a life coach is
gonna drive you and help you to overcome the challenges that are in evitable going to come your way
when on the days you feel like giving up you know no thought.
There's a reason why I'm doing what I'm doing and that's more important.
The end justifies the means.
If you're with me.
So some people will set unrealistic goals.
No when I see unrealistic goals.
Let me explain to you what I mean here though no in Scotland alright.
We are slightly pessimistic breed of people.
If you want encouragement to get ahead and achieve great things in life don't look to a Scotsman.
Whatever you do or right just doesn't happen around here.
So having unrealistic goals you can have a goal to accomplish absolutely anything in life.
When I was growing up you know I had all these dreams and ambitions and my parents would say to me Kane
It's good to be realistic.
Which isn't a great thing to hear when you're growing up.
You know you want to see in my Daddy I want to be a space man.
The words you kind of want to hear is you do son.
You go fill your school.
Go study the stars and I'm sure you'll get there some day.
Oh yes sometimes need to give kids is a little bit of encouragement.
Well that doesn't always happen in Scotland.
I'm sure that's quite similar other parts around the world as well.
But what I'm talking about is setting unrealistic goals you're talking about is the priority in which
we structure our goals.
All right.
Because some people will say it's huge to do lists loads of short term goals and expect that if they
just keep themselves busy and for lots of short term goals then at some point in the future things are
just going to somehow miraculously work out and they are going to get to this place in life where I
completely felt completely content which they didn't.
I actually defined to begin with.
So the running blind.
I actually know what their end goal is.
They don't know what the prise is at the end of the race.
Some people will say it's very realistic long term goals but the timeframe in which they give themselves
to fill these long term goals are completely unrealistic.
No.
This is a thing about long term goals.
They're long term which means that if you try to sell long term goals in the short term or guess how
you're going to feel stressed.
That's right because there's a principle let me share this principle with you.
It's a principle that you can use to literally would any degree of stress that anyone brings your way
in.
Are you a professional or a personal relational context as a matter there's principle My old mentor
Pete once shared this with me it is based upon Eisenstein theory of relativity.
It goes like this.
Stress equals time plus limited space.
Now what this means is that stress within itself is an entity that is determined by other factors around.
And the two factors that determine the amount of space that we have the amount of stress we have in
our lives our time and space.
Say for example or don't we want to fell on term goal.
But we're giving ourselves one week to do us.
How are we going to feel.
Stressed because we don't have much time.
Time is always running out it's always of the essence and space is reducing.
Think of it there.
Think of a student who's studying their hydrous or their the work and towards their exams.
No.
At the start of their final year they're not feeling stress at all.
Why.
Because they have loads of space and loads of time to do all the study and prepare for their exams.
How are the students more than likely to be feeling.
Two days before their biggest final exam.
That's right stressed.
Why.
Because there amount of space time.
Pretty much so you can see that time plus space equals and determines the amount of stress that someone
has no life.
So when it comes to setting unrealistic goals it might be the case that you have clients that come your
way stressed out because they don't feel like moving forward and it may just be the case that you need
to remind them to manage their expectations and simply not be expecting long term goals to be filled
in the short term.
And also if we were to switch those things round short term goals are always necessarily gonna get anywhere
in the long term if they're not working towards something.
So setting realistic goals goals that are realistically in a play a part and helping you to progress
and move towards guérard is that you ultimately want to be.
No.
In this video attached to the additional materials section there is are on one level there's our fact
sheet and information sheet has the seven deadly sins of goal setting attached he can't read off.
If you want and there's also a goal setting work but raise the wattage in no age to print off and familiarize
yourself with because we're going to be unpacking that and more detail throughout the rest of the section
to do that once the video is finished because the fourth listen off goal setting and feel we are in
goal setting is not having a good plan.
Have you ever heard the term he who fails to plan plans to fail.
Well this is pretty much alright and we can have all the greatest goals aspirations dreams in the world
but if we don't have a plan on which to get there then how are we ever going to know how to prioritize
our short term goals or medium term goals and the answer is that we're not.
So the plan is actually just structuring an ordering or goals in a rational and a reasonable way.
There's going to help us to naturally progress through the short term goals towards the medium term
goals and then on towards the long term goals which ultimately plays a part in finding our greatest
life vision anyway which is us being successful in life isn't it.
So it goes without saying that that's the fifth deadly sin not taking action.
That is kind of self sabotaging isn't it.
But believe it or not there are people that are going to come to you for life coaching that will expect
that as they're given you so giving you money.
They're they're paying you money.
Their problems are just going to sort themselves out.
And this is obviously as you know completely so far removed from the truth.
It's unbelievable.
Some people take no action.
Some people will come to you and leave inspired the leave encouraged to leave completely enthused off
the record session then go back to the routine of life and action nothing.
So for those who don't take action well I'm guessing this can put you in the kind of position situation.
We have got to then determine whether they're the kind of person that you want to continue working with
a lot.
Because bear in mind if someone leads a coach and session with you and takes no action then who are
they going to blame when they don't get the results in life that they want to get.
It's not going to be them.
Unfortunately my friend is going to be you.
So you've got to minimize fall over here and sometimes say no to people if they're not willing to action
the guidance and the coaching you offer or give them some people will just simply lose focus.
This is a natural occurrence for example.
I was working with with a guy for quite some time.
We partnered up doing web development work on this project and an agreement was that I would create
online courses or digital courses like this and he would.
Take care of all the Web development and marketing.
So for me that seems like a like a partnership made in heaven.
Until after three months six months I to we're not actually going anywhere here we're not doing anything.
Nothing's nothing's happening there's no way out comes as no.
It's not progressing.
There's a hall of pocking but there's not much urgency getting done.
And what I'd begun to recognize or work over time was me and him would jump on a skate call for a few
hours.
Some not particularly technically minded doing building websites.
Is this something that only been interested in my life.
There's a pretty good chance that you as you're taking this course right now building websites might
seem quite intimidating for you which means that you want to find effective partners but if you are
going to be finding partners in life or if you are going to be coaching other people who need to be
finding partners it's it's important that we partner up with people who are focussed on the goal and
what we're talking about here is bringing people into alignment to offer combined their shared vision
or even just helping them to establish meaningful vision for their own future.
Because if a person doesn't have a meaningful vision for the future it's going to be very very easy
for them to lose focus today losing focus and generally walks hand in hand with this need that people
have for instant gratification because most people unfortunately are impatient.
So yes they have the grandest long term goals even medium term goals and they have a fantastic life
vision but unfortunately most people don't want to take the necessary steps that they need to take today
to get there.
And because people don't get there as quickly and as soon as what they want to lose attention they lose
focus and then focus on other areas that are going to give them some sort of quick fix.
So we understand their fulfilling goals is one way in which we experience for philmont to life.
But some people who don't have that degree of perseverance or patience will sacrifice a full minute
concert completion goals and settle for happiness instead.
So go for quick when's the May to a job or are quick successes or or whatever.
Instant gratification generally works hand in hand with living losing focus.
Maturity walks hand in hand with perseverance patience persistence.
Whilst we stay on track and continue planning on working towards filling our long term goals.
It's the seventh of the seven deadly sins is obviously no no follow through which is kind of the same
or similar to not take an action whereas sometimes we can take action we can in this she is something
which is action but then we just don't see it through to completion.
For example there will be some people who have started this course.
So yes they did take action which was a good thing that may have got past the first section second section
because the course may not have been what they were expecting or something like that they got disheartened.
Or perhaps the Hard's a crisis a war Korra relationship crisis which just resulted in them losing focus
which meant that they ended up not following through which means that they now don't understand the
reason why they're stuck in a rut go around in circles in life.
Because if we don't fall through then we're never going to complete anything.
And if we don't complete anything this can become a really bad habit.
A habit that we need to break within ourselves because we can all be guilty of this.
I mean it's a hub that your clients will be guilty off in some area of their life's saw a pretty much
share of the seven deadly sins of goal setting in one breath.
I hope all this makes sense.
As I've mentioned there is an information sheet you can print off in the downloadable material S.C can
read through these.
And just reflect reflect upon them and just refer back to them in the future if you ever come across
problems in your coaching relationships were people aren't progressing in a way that tennis makes sense
to you.
And there's also the goal set in workbook that I'm going to ask you to print off note and just familiarize
yourself with because we're going to be referring to that throughout the forthcoming video as it come
through this section so this makes sense.
And I look forward to seeing you again in the next video.